What is normal when it comes to grief and loss? There isn’t really a “normal”. However, the document at the link below might help you understand some of what to expect.
Several weeks ago I attended a training session on how to care for those who are grieving. The training leader emphasized the importance of helping the individual who has suffered loss move from the mourning process (internal feelings) to the grieving process (expressing their feelings of loss). As I looked around the room it became obvious that a large number of those attending were themselves dealing with grief. It is much more present in the lives of those around us than we suspect. Perhaps the following quotes will be helpful for you or someone you love.
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One grief support group facilitator told me, “If it was a sudden death, people say, ‘At least she didn’t suffer.’ If it was an anticipated death, they say, ‘At lest you had time to say good-bye.’ Neither way is easier or less painful. They’re just different, and they both hurt deeply.
~ Kenneth C. Haugk, in A Time To Grieve (Journeying Through Grief, Book One)
No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear.
~ C.S. Lewis, in A Grief Observed
If there is a wide gulf between your faith and feelings right now because of the hurt and pain you are feeling, that’s not hypocrisy—that’s honesty.
~ Joey O’Connor, in Heaven’s Not a Crying Place: Teaching Your Child About Funerals, Death, and the Life Beyond
When you lose a parent you lose your past; when you lose a spouse you lose your present; when you lose a child you lose your future.