No one likes to be dependent upon other people. My aging parents struggle with allowing other people to do nice things for them. They spent their whole life investing in the lives of the people in their church and in their kids. But now that they are not able to do everything for themselves it drives them nuts for other people to care for them the same way that they have cared for others.
The fact is that God made us to be interdependent. As John Donne said; (with his spelling retained)
No man is an Iland intire of itselfe; every man is a peece of the Continent, a part of the maine; if a clod bee washed away by the Sea, Europe is thelesse, as well as if a promontorie were, as well as if a mannor of thy friends or of thine owne were; any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankinde; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.
Still, it is difficult to be dependent upon others. When I was pastoring in Arkansas one of the men in our church gradually lost the use of his legs. About every other week I would drive him to Little Rock to see a doctor or therapist. Although, I did not mind doing this, and very much enjoyed his company and the time we got to spend together, I could see the emotional pain in his eyes as we would struggle to load and unload him and his wheelchair from the truck.
A wheelchair van may be an option for some who find themselves in this situation. You can investigate handicap vans at IMED Mobility. Their website has new and used vehicles for sale and products to make transportation more convenient for those with disabilities; chair toppers, vehicle lifts, turning automobile seating, driving aids, and more. For those investigating their options, this is a good place to start.